Here’s a chapter from Heart on My Fingers. To be released 4.26.16
We all desire love, to be wanted, to be accepted, to have healthy relationships, and we crave these things because we were created by a relational God – who created us to love us and be loved by us. God commands us to love Him with all our hearts, minds, and souls. Yes, we are commanded to love God and out of the overflow of that love we are to love and receive love from others. We were created to have a relationship with God through Jesus Christ, and out of that relationship we are to have relationships with others.
More often than not we seek to have our desires for love and relation filled by men and women and not God. Anytime you go to anyone or anything with God sized desires and expectations you’re bound to be disappointed. Because of this we have these huge expectations that lead to problems and needs not being met in relationships.
We seek to have the perfect love from imperfect people.
Consider a cup with cracks all along the cup. You can fill the cup with water and it may last for a while… but eventually the water
will seep out and the cup will be empty again. That’s how our hearts are. We have a hole in our hearts that only God can fill. We can try to fill that hole with other things or people and we may even be satisfied temporarily but eventually the water, the love, the satisfaction, will seep out. Man can cover but only God can fill. It’s only when you allow God to fill you with His love that you can genuinely experience that selfless godly love that we so desire from humans. Sadly, so many people are ignorant of this fact.
People are always talking about physical intimacy and protecting our bodies during sex, but no sex is safe sex when done in sin. There is an intimacy that is just as important and sometimes more powerful and dangerous than physical intimacy. Emotional, spiritual, mental intimacy. When we open our hearts for love we leave ourselves open for hurt and for being wounded, and emotional wounds are dangerous because unlike physical wounds they can’t be seen. They are often ignored – left festering, growing and causing deeper pain and heartache than to begin with.
Love and relationships are a beautiful thing but it’s not this worldly love we grew up on. True love is the love of God. Agape. It’s selfless. It’s sacrificial. It’s freely given not earned. It’s unconditional and unending. It’s expressed through action, and out of that action feelings commonly expressed with love are felt. In order for us to experience such an intimacy we must open our hearts to accept and give love. So, to protect ourselves from unnecessary pain and brokenness in our hearts, lives, and relationships with God and others I suggest wearing a heart condom.
The best way to protect your heart is to have a personal relationship with God. Allow Him to fill your heart with His love. Then, you will be able to give and receive love. Be wise in all matters of the heart. Be wise when picking mates. Embrace the opportunity for hurt, but only give that opportunity to someone who’s trustworthy. A man or woman so fearful of breaking God’s heart that they won’t play with yours.
Keep God first and let Him lead you in your relationships. Don’t allow intimacy to grow before commitment. Make sure you are the one and ready for a relationship before you jump into a relationship. Be content with yourself and your life. Love God and love yourself or you’ll never be able to love and be loved by someone else.
 Proverbs 4:23 Above all else guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.
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